people of life
on the tram today, i managed to get a seat near the door. at the next stop, this girl got into the tram and stood right in front of me. i was in a dilemma as to whether i ought to have given up my seat to her, as i thought she was pregnant. then on second look, i think she was just plump. but she was wearing a maternity-like, pink, flowy top over her pants. her face looked slightly bloated due to water retention or something. so. it was hard to tell. really hard. i mean, it would've been quite rude to offer her a seat, assuming she's pregnant when she really isn't, right? that would've been a downright insult. lose-lose situation there, i'd say.
it's not that i have something against fat people. i don't. i find love handles really sexy. but some of the lipid-endowed girls/women over here are really pushing it. it's one thing to be confident of yourself: self-esteem is definitely an attractive trait. knowing your limits is another. knowing what accentuates your best features need not necessarily mean going out and buying that revealing top you saw the other day in the magazine.
am especially amused by real-life "translations" of how a human Barbie doll would look like. i forget the exact vital stats, but it would translate roughly to a woman too tall, with boobs waaaay too huge, a waist waaaaay too tiny and an oversized hip. disproportionate. or like how those kawaii manga girls with eyes-the-size-of-half-their-faces, long slender limbs and triangle noses would scare the hell outta me if i were to meet a person in real life with such features. that blue little boy from ju-on will freak me out less than a waif with an MJ nose and giant sparkling eyes (with long lashes too!) reaching from her forehead to halfway down her cheek.
people are different, and no one should need to feel compelled to look a certain way in order to accomplish what they'd set out to do. i think it's good that there are now ads featuring "ugly" people, like benetton ads, or some aired on tv. it's sad how people make themselves the judges of acceptability/beauty.
i didn't give up my seat in the end. in future, i'll only ever give up my seat to old folks, or to obviously pregnant ladies, just so not to accidentally offend anyone.
it's not that i have something against fat people. i don't. i find love handles really sexy. but some of the lipid-endowed girls/women over here are really pushing it. it's one thing to be confident of yourself: self-esteem is definitely an attractive trait. knowing your limits is another. knowing what accentuates your best features need not necessarily mean going out and buying that revealing top you saw the other day in the magazine.
am especially amused by real-life "translations" of how a human Barbie doll would look like. i forget the exact vital stats, but it would translate roughly to a woman too tall, with boobs waaaay too huge, a waist waaaaay too tiny and an oversized hip. disproportionate. or like how those kawaii manga girls with eyes-the-size-of-half-their-faces, long slender limbs and triangle noses would scare the hell outta me if i were to meet a person in real life with such features. that blue little boy from ju-on will freak me out less than a waif with an MJ nose and giant sparkling eyes (with long lashes too!) reaching from her forehead to halfway down her cheek.
people are different, and no one should need to feel compelled to look a certain way in order to accomplish what they'd set out to do. i think it's good that there are now ads featuring "ugly" people, like benetton ads, or some aired on tv. it's sad how people make themselves the judges of acceptability/beauty.
i didn't give up my seat in the end. in future, i'll only ever give up my seat to old folks, or to obviously pregnant ladies, just so not to accidentally offend anyone.
posted by limegreenspyda at 1:56:00 am
5 Comments:
I totally agree with your action. Yes, sometimes it's hard to tell if a woman is pregnant or not.
My neighbour looked big on the waist, yet I didn't dare ask if she was expecting. Didn't want to get an angry stare from her. It was only recently when I saw her with a baby carrier, that I realized I was right all along. Haha, better to be seen rude than being wrongly misunderstood!
anna: it's weird how a pregnant woman's extended tummy becomes "public" property, and it seems ok for anyone to touch it and feel the baby kicking, and ask the usual pregnancy questions... like, you wouldn't usually go touch someone else's tummy for no other reason.
aussie spirit: wow you sure have a lot to say on this topic eh! guess that's just the way it is when individuals are encouraged to BE themselves. to each their own, i say!
ah hock/bubbles: then just pretend to read a book/the papers and ignore the protruding tummy! safer way out.
hahaha. poor you! i usually just stand in the mrt/nel just to avoid such situations. ya ya. loser. :P tho...it does mean that i end up leaning against the glass/perspex plastic barrier, falling asleep while standing up, and sliding halfway down before i wake up and catch myself. sigh.
oi spyda, no new post ah..was looking forward to it...
cheers~
da scorpio: wah you can actually fall asleep standing up in a train? haha... try to get a seat next time! or lean against both the perspex/acrylic barrier AND the door "post" so you get a 'corner'. safer. less embarrassing if you really doze off!
ka chuaz: wah so good to know somebody waiting for my next post! :) comin' right up!
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